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Alicia Kost
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Posted on Thursday, Sep 15, 2005 - 11:32 am:   Edit PostPrint Post

Guinness was 9, I was there for his birth, have not been apart from him for more than 2 weeks since then. He was starting his A circuit career, had a promising school last night. I was too lazy to get up to feed him this morning, so I paid my trainer to do so. He got away from her (not sure on the details of it), and they tried to catch him. He ended up on a highway and was stuck and killed. The woman who struck him is dead as well. I am torn apart. I am trying to keep busy. He nickered to me every day I came to the barn.
I am getting him cremated and am going to get the ashes. Not sure what I will do with them yet. I would like suggestions. I would like to either keep them or some, or maybe use them to grow something new.
My other horse is in surgery today to get her urethra operated on. Please pray she makes it through and is fixed and can be bred!! Well, at least pray that her pain is fixed and she lives!
Alicia
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Debbie Green
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Posted on Thursday, Sep 15, 2005 - 11:50 am:   Edit PostPrint Post

Oh Alicia,

That is awful. Words cannot express how I feel for you right now. I don't have any suggestions, but I do want to offer my deepest sympathy to you and to the family of the driver. What a sad, tragic day for all involved.
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Alicia Kost
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Posted on Thursday, Sep 15, 2005 - 12:15 pm:   Edit PostPrint Post

Debbie,
Thank you. I am actually glad for work today, it is keeping me busy which helps control the crying. It is like loosing a child. He depended upon me for everything. I keep thinking he probably would have come to me, he didnt' know the folks caring for him that well. I feel like a parent who's child got killed at daycare, wondering whether if they had been a stay at home parent things would have worked out differently.
I am sure I will recover, but I was there when he was born, I guided him to where he was now in training, people were finally beginning to recognize what a talented horse he was, and then this happens.
Alicia
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Shirley A. Johnson
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Posted on Thursday, Sep 15, 2005 - 12:16 pm:   Edit PostPrint Post

Oh My God Alicia - I'm so sorry for the double tragedy and hope and pray your other horse is Okay. Please take care of you at this point. As for the ashes, I had Sierra cremated also. I bought a beautiful little covered container from a gift shop, ceramic with a southwestern design, etc. I place a few of her ashes in that to keep. These are to be scattered with mine when the time comes. The bigger portion of ashes, my son and I scattered on a large rock overlooking the San Rafeal Valley near his home in Sonoita, AZ. Later he made and placed a marker by the Rock, with her name, birth and death date. She is free to fly with the angels as is your gelding.
Much love and peace to you and yours, Shirl
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Shawna G
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Posted on Thursday, Sep 15, 2005 - 12:30 pm:   Edit PostPrint Post

Alicia,
I can't imagine what you must be going through right now. Something similar happened down our way, where a bunch got out of the fence and got out on a major highway, 5 of them were killed. It just makes my stomach sick to think of this happening to you. What an awful tragedy for you and the family of the driver. May you find the strength to get through this, and I offer you my deepest sympathy.
Shawna
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dina
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Posted on Thursday, Sep 15, 2005 - 12:30 pm:   Edit PostPrint Post

ah - Im so sorry - how terribly tragic for everyone. A friend of mine lost her long-time beloved stallion of 16 years only 2 yrs ago. She had a diamond made from his cremation and she wears it every day - as a pendant.

My thots are with you and everyone this has touched.

peace...
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Christine C. Mills in NC
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Posted on Thursday, Sep 15, 2005 - 12:32 pm:   Edit PostPrint Post

I am so sorry for your loss and the driver's family loss. What a terrible tragedy.

I recently lost my dog to cancer. Someone made me aware of this web site:

www.mycrystalcompanion.com

I've not really decided what to do with my dog's ashes. Part of me wants to spread them at a location he really loved and part of me doesn't want to "lose" what is left of him. So they are sitting in a tin on a counter in my kitchen for the moment.

I am sure you are going through a painful time. I just wanted to tell you I feel for you.

<<hugs>>

Chris
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Alicia Kost
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Posted on Thursday, Sep 15, 2005 - 12:35 pm:   Edit PostPrint Post

Shirley,
That is a good idea to keep some to be buried with me. I will definitely do that. Thanks for that.
Shawna,
It is hardest as he was my bright future. I told myself a little while ago to dwell on the times we had together not the ones we won't be able to now.
Dina,
That is an interesting thought. I haven't done a web search yet, but that is a neat idea.
Alicia
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JoDeen Levanger
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Posted on Thursday, Sep 15, 2005 - 12:54 pm:   Edit PostPrint Post

Alicia,
what a horrible tragedy, my deepest sympathy to both you and the family of the driver. I think it is a beautiful thought to use part of his ashes to grow something. A living thing to remind you of his life with you. I have two horses buried on my property both with a bush planted ontop to remind us of their life, and that life does continue. again, I am so sorry for your loss, and the pain you must be going through, my prayers are with you and the family.
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Aileen
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Posted on Thursday, Sep 15, 2005 - 12:56 pm:   Edit PostPrint Post

Oh Alicia, I'm so very sorry, how terribly tragic. I can't imagine the pain you must be feeling...((((Hugs)))) to you.
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Janet Schmidt
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Posted on Thursday, Sep 15, 2005 - 12:57 pm:   Edit PostPrint Post

Alica - words aren't really enough in a time like this. As Shirley said you need to look after yourself. Survivor guilt is something that can eat you up. Don't second guess yourself. We make thousands of decisions on a daily and even hourly basis that come and go without our even realizing it. It is when something happens that we zero in on that one moment it time that we wish we could go back and change. Focus forward and cherish the memories of the past. Grieving and crying are a healthy process that you must go thru. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and the family of the woman who was killed, and for your other horse. You will be on an emotional rollercoster for a while but as unfortunate as the saying is - time will help heal. Keep us updated on your mare.
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Ella
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Posted on Thursday, Sep 15, 2005 - 1:03 pm:   Edit PostPrint Post

I am so sorry! You compared this to a child and it is much the same. These horses are our children. We feel responsible but yet can't control all the decisions they make. It is not unreasonable to have someone else take care of your horse in the morning. Many of us have that too.

If you would like help the local hospices often have grief counseling. In my area, grief is grief, it would not have to be a person. I hope it is the same in your area.

My sympathy is with you!

Ella
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Sara Wolff
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Posted on Thursday, Sep 15, 2005 - 1:12 pm:   Edit PostPrint Post

Alicia-I'm so sorry. What a tragedy! You can't blame yourself for not being there, however. You can't know what might have happened if you had been. Sometimes these horrible things happen regardless.

When I lost my wonderful old gelding that I'd had for almost 30 yrs., we buried him on our property and planted a raspberry bush over him. (Raspberries were his very favorite treat.) We are lucky that we live where we could do this. We now have several of his friends buried nearby (who died of old age.) It's become a place of quiet reflection and wonderful memories for me.

If you don't want to bury his ashes, maybe plant an apple tree or something in his memory.

Dina-what a good idea! Where in the world did she find someone to do that?
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Fran C
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Posted on Thursday, Sep 15, 2005 - 1:19 pm:   Edit PostPrint Post

Alicia,
My heartfelt condolances to you. What a sad, sad thing to happen, all the way around.

My thoughts are with you.

Fran
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Alicia Kost
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Posted on Thursday, Sep 15, 2005 - 1:44 pm:   Edit PostPrint Post

Anyone know the Ph of ashes? I want to start looking for something beautiful, but a little temperamental, and that springs forth from the ground like my Guin did when he jumped. It must also be hardy and like the cold :-) I live in Chesapeake Beach, Maryland. I figure someone here must be a gardener.
JoDeen,
Thank you. I like that idea too. I know some friends of mine cut off his tail hairs and washed the blood (crap, crying again) out of it and took it to the barn. I plan on doing something with that too.
Aileen,
It comes and goes. My head hurts quite a bit though. I have never felt like this before. Hope this doesn't incite anyone, but no human death as ever caused me this much pain. I don't have children, but I imagine it must be like losing a child.
Janet,
You are right, of course, and thank you. I will post on Lilly when she is out of surgery.
Ella,
You know, I think I would rather talk to folks who knew him, and I am doing that. I am going to Yellowstone next week with my husband. I think that will help me heel (trip was planned months ago).
Sara,
He already has a yoshino cherry planted for when he was born. I will make sure my parents keep it well!
Fran,
Thanks.
Alicia
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Gwen Robison
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Posted on Thursday, Sep 15, 2005 - 2:21 pm:   Edit PostPrint Post

Oh man, Alicia. I am so sorry. My first pony went that way and it is so tragic. For me it was those details (mane) that were tough. I hate to bring that up, but I wanted to remind you that we are all able to feel that pain with you. I have never met you, nor will I probably ever-but I feel super close to you right now... Keep your chin up.
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Shirley A. Johnson
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Posted on Thursday, Sep 15, 2005 - 2:26 pm:   Edit PostPrint Post

Alicia, DO NOT feel guilty about missing your boy more than you've missed some humans that have past. I've been through the same experience since Sierra passed nearly a year ago. Only one person's death was more difficult to deal with and that was of my father, to whom it I was extra close. Sierra was my life-line going through a difficult period in my life. I know how you feel.
Love and hugs, Shirley.
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Alicia Kost
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Posted on Thursday, Sep 15, 2005 - 2:45 pm:   Edit PostPrint Post

Gwen,
I feel for you. This is the worst emotional pain I have ever felt. I am reading boring work stuff between posts, makes me forget a bit.
Shirley,
See above. This is the most I have cried in my life. Worse even than when I was 15 and found out I had type 1 diabetes. Worse than when my favorite aunt died, worse than when my last two dogs died, worse then when my Grandfather died. I hate to actually name events, but I am just in pain. I can concentrate, amazingly, on work, better than usual. Did you know that using low thrust high efficiency electric propulsion at a lower thrust level more often and for longer periods than higher thrust thrusters actually makes momentum management easier? I did, but reading it in a published paper and knowing it will make my job easier makes me less sad. Never thought I would find work comforting.
Alicia
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Linda Lashley
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Posted on Thursday, Sep 15, 2005 - 3:03 pm:   Edit PostPrint Post

Alicia,

Such a tragic event makes words seem too simple to express my feelings. It brings tears to my eyes, as I'm sure it does to many others here at HA. I recognize the name Guinness from your previous posts and it gives me the feeling of having known him, even if only through words. Things happen so fast, in the blink of an eye, and leave us gasping long after. My deepest and most heartfelt sympathy to you and the family of the driver.

When my basset hound, my best buddy, died of cancer, we had her cremated and spread her ashes in her favorite place to run. Personally, I think the grass grows greener and thicker in the spot we laid Maggie's ashes. I am a gardener, and wood ashes are acidic, (not sure about mammals). Some plants that like acid are coniferous trees (those in the pine family), azaleas, and rhododendrons. One life becomes another.

Peace, and best wishes for better days.

Linda
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Sue G
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Posted on Thursday, Sep 15, 2005 - 3:20 pm:   Edit PostPrint Post

Alicia, this is terrible news. Do not allow guilt to creep in. It was not your fault. Just a freak accident which all of us with horses know can happen so easily.

I live very close to a huge park that is full of miles of horse trails. There have been accidents in the past years where horses have thrown their riders and bolted on to the road in front of cars. I drive by that park every day on my way to and from work and pray I'll never be faced with a loose horse on the road.

I feel so badly for you and the driver's family. It is a tragedy for all.

Sue
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Christine C. Mills in NC
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Posted on Thursday, Sep 15, 2005 - 3:36 pm:   Edit PostPrint Post

Still missing my dog, I periodically light a candle for him here:

http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/enter.cfm

I also do the candle lighting ceremony on Monday evenings at 10 eastern time.

I am about ready to start a "memories" journal for him with recollections and photos.

You can also have a bracelet made from his tail. I think the company is called "Pony Locks."

Just some additional suggestions.
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Alicia Kost
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Posted on Thursday, Sep 15, 2005 - 3:45 pm:   Edit PostPrint Post

Linda,
Thanks for the help. I am going to try really hard to make my plants I plant for him look good. Got suggestions for a nice red clematis (quirky and cold loving, but bold), a columbine variety called Guinness, hydrangea (because they change with the acidity of the ground), and it has been suggested I try to find a tree that will fit him.
The tree would need to be hardy in the Chesapeake Bay area, be dark barked, stocky, and have long leaves or branches as his tail dragged the ground.
Christine,
I am looking into doing that. Some friends cut off part of his tail for me and washed off the blood. I will use that.
Alicia
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D.
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Posted on Thursday, Sep 15, 2005 - 3:50 pm:   Edit PostPrint Post

Alicia, my heart is heavy with sorrow I'm feeling for you and everyone else who's suffering from this tragic accident. Please do not add guilt to your already heavy load. It was a freak accident with dreadful consequences and now it's history.

Wishing you peace, courage and strength to help you through the coming days. I'm also praying your mare comes through the surgery with no complications and is home very soon.

With deepest sympathy,

D.
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Nancy R. Kiester
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Alicia, my heart just broke when you spoke of washing his tail to keep for memories. I lost Donny's mom when he was only four hours old, and there was nothing that could be done to save her. There is such an emptiness in the place that was filled with joy, lost hopes and forsaken dreams. I guess the best that can be said is this, "Guinness, I am a better person for having known you..." Thank you for the strength you are sharing with all of us. I am amazed at your beautiful way of coping through the pain.
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Alicia Kost
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Posted on Thursday, Sep 15, 2005 - 4:27 pm:   Edit PostPrint Post

Nancy,
I really AM, the saying is absolutely correct. Never thought that saying really meant anything, but it is totally true in my case. I started with him being a brat, expecting things to come easily. I spent the next 9 years realizing you can't rush, and you have to be consistent. He really has made me a much better person. I just wish he could still be around to enjoy the better me.
Oh, Lilly came through the surgery with flying colors. She will have to be caslicked to be bred, but the urethra repair went well.
I am glad I kept calling for progress on her, as the doctor had forgotten to take her muscle biopsy!
Alicia
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Alicia Kost
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Posted on Thursday, Sep 15, 2005 - 4:31 pm:   Edit PostPrint Post

Oh, I want to post one of the last photos I took of Guin. He and my Collie are kissing.
Guinness and Breannan
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dina
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Posted on Thursday, Sep 15, 2005 - 4:40 pm:   Edit PostPrint Post

The company that helped my friend is called:

Guardian Animal Aftercare
818.768.6465
http://guardianaftercare.com/

They are in Los Angeles County, but Im sure they know of other companies that have the same positive reputation and offer similar services.

Sending warm hugs and white light to bring you through. Rest and take care of you.
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Ann
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beautiful picture, and like the rest am sorry for your lost... speaking of planting something to grow, that is what I always do for my animals and my human family...

when I lost my first brood mare I was devastated.. sick for months... she had broke her neck in my pasture... later, when I was ready I went out to buy a red rose tree, she was a blood bay apply sport horse... I cried at the nursery picking out the plant... my husband and I put it in the back of the pick up to bring home, he took a corner to quick and the tree fell down... yup, broke it... I was a mess... husband used duck tape and still planted the tree... it grows tall / red / and strong in the front of my barn... my rose tree for Dresden Silk with a broken neck too...

On the first day God created horses, on the second day he painted them with SPOTS..
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Alicia Kost
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Thank you for sharing Ann. It is still very hard, but now that Lilly is doing better, I am a little happier. I guess the timing that I thought was so bad (one horse showing and the other getting surgery at the same time) was good after all. It is helping me a lot to know that I was able to help her.
Dina,
Thanks for the link. He was cremated a few hours ago. I suppose I will have the ashes when I get home from my vacation to Yellowstone that I am leaving on Monday. That will give me some time to come to terms with things.
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Gigi Hugo
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Posted on Thursday, Sep 15, 2005 - 5:25 pm:   Edit PostPrint Post

Alicia,

My sincere condolences on your terrible loss. He was a beautiful horse and my heart aches for you and the family of the driver.

Gigi
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Lilo
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So sorry for your loss, so sorry for the driver who died in the accident, and her family. What a terrible thing to happen.

My deepest condolences,
Lilo
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barbara
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My thoughts and prayers are with you and the drivers family. I am so sorry that you lost your dear horse.

I never felt more pain then when my horse died last December. So I totally understand how the pain can feel worse than any human loss. Do take care of yourself. I highly recommend the tissues with lotion in them...helps keep the nose from being blown raw.
(hugs)
-Barbara
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Amy M. Stika
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Alicia-
What a beautiful boy... and such a loss. Nothing more I can say than my thoughts and prayers are with you & yours, Guinness, the driver and her family. I have been choked up all day reading these posts... what a sad day. Best of luck with your mare. If she does recover, I will be happy to offer you a free breeding to one of my WB Jumper stallions (Coromino or Rhythm & Blues)...if you are interested. I am sure the last thing you want to hear about is breeding another horse...but the offer still stands when the time is right, come see me when/if it is (www.heritagemanorfarm.com) Hugs.
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Lee
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I've been involved with horses since the sixties, and an owner since 1970. I thought I'd suffered some very traumatic partings ( groundhog hole leg break, lightning strike, broken humerus in flat sand paddock????and having to euthanize my pal I'd owned for thirty years), but they all pale in comparison to what you've been through. My heart is aching for you - I know the long journey ahead.

There is nothing quite like this searing, crippling pain, and, yes, work is a refuge. I deal with these things by putting away all obvious reminders and closing my mind to thoughts of them.

When the time comes that the memory of them brings only warmth, humor, comfort and love, I know I've turned the corner. This is when I can let down the barriers I've created. I do this because I believe that my horses are a joy, a refuge, a gift. I cannot bear to allow myself to associate the thoughts of them with pain, sorrow or anguish. That is not the way to honor their immense generosity of spirit and extraordinary heart. For they are about so very much more than the jarring pain their departure brings....yet the very enormity of their passing, though only a moment, threatens to overpower the years of fulfillment they gladly supplied, with a curtain of darkness.

Sometimes in our lives, there come times when it is necessary to be selfish. Indulge yourself in whatever you need to for as long as you need to. Pamper yourself with whatever you think will help. This is your mourning period - you need it. Just remember not to mix your mourning with your memories......then, when the mourning is done, your memories can return unmarked by pain, to lighten your life, and lift your heart forever.

God Bless
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Somehow condolences alone here seem inadequate Alicia. My prayers go out to you, the family of the of the car's driver, and your horse having surgery today. I will be thinking about you a lot as I am sure will any horse owner who reads this. No doubt your grief here will have everyone else double checking their tack and latches and will save others a bad experience. This is not much to offer compared to your current sadness but hope it is something that helps.
DrO
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Angie Judson
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Posted on Friday, Sep 16, 2005 - 9:35 am:   Edit PostPrint Post

Alicia,

I was too choked up to post last night when I read about what happened. I still can't find any words, just shake my head at the thought of what everyone is going through. I have been so busy lately I've barely seen my horses. I've been watching my kids and husband come and go, barely registering what anyone is saying or doing. The highlight of my day is reading the HA posts that interest me. And along with that is sharing sorrows like yours, we are all one big family.

Today, and everyday, I will take time for my horses, and my family. All ready did this morning. And I will keep you in my prayers as well as the family involved in the accident.

Time. Time will heal your pain.

Take care of yourself.
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LL
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Posted on Friday, Sep 16, 2005 - 10:33 am:   Edit PostPrint Post

Oh Alicia, I've only just turned on my computer, and was horrified as soon as I saw the title of your thread. What a beautiful horse - and what an ugly tragedy.

My deepest sympathy goes out to you and the driver's family, and I wish you the strength to heal, to keep the wonderful memories, and to let the pain go.

Lynn
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Sherri L. Hueser
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Alicia,
I cannot express my condolences deeply enough through words on this thread Alicia. Nor can I even begin to imagine your pain and heartbreak. My heart goes out to you for your loss and for the family of the driver. I was able to keep my emotions at bay until I saw the picture of Guin. Hold tight to your memories. They'll get you through this tough time.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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Alicia Kost
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Posted on Friday, Sep 16, 2005 - 2:42 pm:   Edit PostPrint Post

Everyone,
I can't stop crying. This hurts so bad. He was my life (well the biggest part after my husband and family). He was just coming into his own. I worked SO hard on him and with him. We trusted each other. He nickered to me when I entered the barn, even when I was 100 feet away. He came to me from the field every time I called. I am so sad, I am sick.

Gigi, Lilo, Barbara, Angie, LL, everyone,
Thank you.

Amy,
That is incredibly generous. Your stallions are INCREDIBLY beautiful and very well bred. I still have a contract for Voltaire semen, though. They extended it for me because of the loss of the foal. So, I am going to try again in the spring with him, after she has a chance to heal up. If you still want to do this after this one is born, I will take you up on it then. I know that is about 1.5 years from now, but I am bookmarking your site ;)
You have made me smile through the tears!

Lee,
I hope you don't mind, but I have forwarded some of your post to some friends. I would also like to use some of it in Guinness' memorial I am going to put together. Written so well!

Dr. O.,
I thought I wouldn't care if people consoled me, as nothing can make up for the loss of my baby. However, this is helping, and I will keep all the posts I get to add to my collection of things about him.

Sherri,
I am so glad I took that photo!! I have others too, but the curiosity and "you don't scare me you little mutt" look on his face just makes me smile. Plus, I can see my dog and know he is still with me.
Thank you all so much!!!

I am going on vacation to Yellowstone Monday (serendipity that we planned this months ago), so I won't be back on till the 28th, but please everyone know, I will read this as soon as I get back, and this is all making me feel comforted.
Alicia
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Sara Wolff
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Posted on Friday, Sep 16, 2005 - 3:23 pm:   Edit PostPrint Post

Alicia,
Have a wonderful time in Yellowstone. It is such a magnificent place no words can aptly describe it. It will be a healing place for you, I think.

When my wonderful friend Kelly died, after I'd had him for almost 30 yrs., it took me a long time to recover, but i did, and you will too, although you will never forget your beloved Guinness. Kellee died 13 yrs. ago, and there are still times that I miss him. He was one of those very special horses that you are lucky to have even once in your life. Although he has never been replaced, I now have other horses that are very special to me in their own ways, and you will, too. I have a wonderful mare that is so close to me I am unaware of every asking her to do anything, whether I'm on the ground or riding. You will have other wonderful horses that will steal your heart also. A new foal by Voltaire will be a wonderful new start!

I'm so glad your mare is recovering. I hope you can enjoy your vacation without undue worry.
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